Released: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself

Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself has been officially released and I am honored to say it was also a #1 Amazon Best Seller upon its official release in Personality Disorders, as well as a #1 Amazon Bestseller in two other categories!



Narcissistic personalities are aware of their actions and the impact of their actions – we know this not only from the voices of narcissists themselves but also in the way they smear their victims and the var (3)
In my new book, I tackle many victim-blaming myths that often hold survivors back from holding their abusers accountable.


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Reverse discourse is a series of methods, a practice and a way of life I’ve developed to disarm the harmful words of abusers and empower ourselves by rewriting the narrative.
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In my book, I talk about the biochemical and trauma bonds that inevitably tether abuse victims to their abusers, as well as the emotional and psychological reasons why abuse survivors stay.

What People Are Saying About the Book

“Outstanding, comprehensive, thoughtful book for survivors!! I will be sending my clients to read this book to help them have a fantastic, thorough understanding of narcissistic abuse recovery. Shahida Arabi skillfully writes from the standpoint of a survivor to a place of thriving…she blends evidence-based research, with survivor stories and integrative healing concepts that are paramount for trauma recovery from the unique aftermath of narcissistic abuse. This book will be a compass and roadmap for many as they reassemble after the rubble and construct anew a life of meaning, purpose, healing and transformation. Shahida Arabi speaks from the heart, from science, and from spirit…she knows how to translate for survivors the path of healing, triumph, and freedom….Congratulations, Shahida, on creating this beautiful book—so many will be helped on so many levels because of your eloquence and fortitude. Blessings to you!” – Andrea Schneider, MSW, LCSW, Author of Soul Vampires: Reclaiming Your Lifeblood After Narcissistic Abuse

“This book, is such an amazing resource, for all survivors of toxic abuse. And for those wishing to educate themselves further on the consequences and suffering caused by toxic abusers. The book is thoughtful and emphasizes the survivor’s journey and what is necessary to begin to heal and thrive, after such life impacting abuse. Shahida has great empathy and deep insight, and this I know to be vital, when reaching out to survivors to help them in a meaningful and appropriate way. This book incorporates science, as well as personal experience, research and education, to show why people get into and stay within toxic relationships. And how to heal the deep wounds.The book also shows the different types of disorders that can result from chronic abuse, such as Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. This is invaluable, as many survivors are not aware, this can be a result of the ongoing abuse. I love the different modalities and ways for healing and recovery and how this advice gives that hope many survivors really need, to know they can heal and thrive. Which is essential when you have endured chronic severe abuse. In educating with empathy, survivors of abuse can find their way out of the dark hole and into a healthy life, with great self care, to thrive and lead the lives they deserve.

Shahida also emphasizes how victim shaming and victim blaming, so popular in society, are wrong, harmful and abusive too. This book is a professional and meaningful resource, that will no doubt go on to help so many people. I will be promoting this book on my website and blog…. to help it reach more people. You are a light, shining in the darkness, for many. Much support and blessing to you Shahida, you are making a real and meaningful difference in this world!” – Lilly Hope Lucario, Founder of Healing from Complex Trauma and PTSD

“As the author of Take Your Power Back: Healing Lessons, Tips, and Tools for Abuse Survivors and founder of the narcissistic abuse recovery Page and website Yourlifelifter, I would like to give kudos to Shahida Arabi and her efforts in writing a well researched book filled with current accurate and practical information that focuses on the abuse survivors and not the abusers. Well-written and edited and filled with accurate truth, tons of current information, contributions from legitimate narcissistic abuse recovery experts, hope and inspiration that will facilitate healing and point the reader to effective healers and professional and self-help strategies they can tailor to their specific needs.” – Evelyn M. Ryan, Author of Take Your Power Back: Healing Lessons, Tips and Tools for Abuse Survivors and Founder of Yourlifelifter

“I have read 50+ books on narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic abuse, domestic abuse, trauma, PTSD, etc. This book is one of the best. Ms. Arabi is an excellent, thorough and insightful researcher and journalist. She lays the groundwork for recovery by explaining the impact of narcissistic abuse, synthesizing those truths with provocative insights from leading scholars and then offering practical suggestions and methods of recovery.

This book is extremely well-documented and well-researched. Arabi not only addresses NPD and narcissistic abuse but delves into PTSD/CPTSD, citing the works of renowned experts such as Judith Herman, M.D., author of the foundational book “Trauma and Recovery,” and Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. (“The Betrayal Bond”). She also ties in the work of Bessel van der Kolk M.D., who in his book “The Body Keeps the Score” reveals how trauma rewires the the brain, along with dozens of other sources, both classic and contemporary.

Each chapter of Arabi’s book features an impressive endnotes section as well as links to articles, podcasts and social media resources. She manages to combine all these sources into a comprehensive and revealing look at narcissistic abuse and its effects on the survivor. She then offers practical tips and alternatives for recovering from the trauma of narcissistic abuse. I was personally inspired and motivated by her creative recommendations for recovery – I even surprised myself by experimenting with the guided meditation links and redoubling my commitment to doing Zumba four times a week. And I haven’t even finished reading the book!

Bravo, Ms. Arabi, and thank you! I very much recommend this book.” – BG

I am SO honored that mental health professionals and authors in this niche are also sharing the book! Thank you so much for your support!





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