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Are you struggling in the aftermath of a toxic relationship with a narcissistic or emotionally unavailable partner? Are you looking for a way to maintain No Contact or Low Contact during this time? What about healing strategies that will enable you to move forward from the gaslighting, the covert and overt put-downs, the cognitive dissonance and the low self-esteem you may have suffered during and after this type of relationship?
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Why a coaching program? I am very grateful that my blog has been able to help millions of people learn more about narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships. My bestselling Kindle book, The Smart Girl’s Guide to Self-Care, has also helped abuse survivors on their journey to healing by providing them with a self-care toolkit.
However, I receive e-mails and requests from all over the world from people who are struggling to heal after this type of abuse – people who need tools and positive reinforcement tailored specifically to them to actively tackle the journey ahead and conquer their addiction to the toxic relationship on all levels – psychologically, spiritually and physically.
Is this program like therapy? This program is not a substitute for therapy – it is meant to be a supplement to your healing regimen. I highly recommend that survivors of abuse consult a mental health professional trained in both emotional and physical abuse during their recovery process. Unfortunately, due to the lack of attention given to narcissistic abuse among mental health professionals, not all professionals are able to provide a sensitive and validating approach to victims of this type of covert psychological abuse. There may be a few professionals who unintentionally re-victimize their clients when they invalidate their experiences and ask them to look at their part in the abuse.
While it’s certainly admirable to look within for self-improvement, this type of invalidation can also make victims feel as if the covert abuse they are experiencing is not legitimate – which actually further gaslights them into staying within the relationship to make things work. Many survivors can benefit from sharing their story with another survivor who has been through similar experiences in addition to seeking therapy.
My approach is different. I want to provide my coaching clients a balance of introspection as well as validation for their experiences. I want to both teach and learn from other survivors about their particular needs, goals and desires so that this remains a coaching partnership rather than a one-sided teaching relationship. I want to use my educational coursework in psychology and sociology, my personal research into this topic, my numerous life experiences as an abuse survivor as well as the challenges thousands of readers have reached out to me with to guide you on the journey to healing – in a way that is deeply personal and specific to your current situation.
If you’ve ever read my blog comments or responses on my YouTube channel, you know that I try my very best to give extensive replies to my readers which include both resources and encouragement. Due to time constraints, however, I’ve never been able to coach them individually throughout their healing journey. I would now love the opportunity to make this possible.
For this coaching program, I value quality over quantity. This means I will work with a small number of people every month who I feel are in sync with my coaching mission rather than a large number where the quality of my services may become diminished. The reason I do this is simple: I want to provide you with the most quality service and personalized attention possible.
UPDATE: Individual consultation and coaching e-mails – Due to increased demand for online coaching, I have recently modified and moved my e-mail consultation and online coaching services to Fiverr. Please sign up for one of my packages here.
“As I look back I would say being in a relationship with a narcissistic abuser was like being shackled to a lunatic in the darkest corner of Bedlam. Of course you don’t even realise its happening until it’s too late and you are lost in their empty, evil world. I left so confused and unsure of what had happened to me, with the support of my mother and then finding Shahida online I could educate myself, empower myself and heal. Shahida taught me so much and I am so thankful to have found her.
My relationship with him was textbook; I read Five Powerful Ways Abusive Narcissists Get Inside Your Head. It was as if Shahida had been writing about my life in the last two years. He was everything she wrote about and it all clicked into place.
After being in such a muddled headspace, Shahida sorted my head out and I am stronger than ever, she taught me everything I needed to know and with this knowledge I got my life back. These people are very dangerous, they are never happier until you are confused and at the mercy their control. I would never allow someone to take away my happiness. You should never allow anyone to take away your peace of mind. I am so grateful for my family and Shahida for getting me over such an awful experience. Shahida is an incredible woman and is inspiring so many women all over the world. It is my aim to educate and help other sufferers, empower them and give them back their peace of mind something that narcissistic abusers will never have.” – Coaching Client
More testimonials regarding Self-Care Haven can be found on the main website here.
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